If the past predicts the future, the likelihood of my Malignant Narcissist ex moving on after being released from jail is slim to none.
Of course, the circumstances in my case may be different from yours. For one thing, he blames me for his most recent incarceration. I pressed charges against him after he cracked my skull and injured our autistic son.
As is typical of a narcissist, he considered himself blameless. In his mind, I provoked him into the rage that caused him to lash out. It wouldn’t have happened if I hadn’t been such a bitch.
But it did happen. And I did press charges again. The first time he was incarcerated was in 2016 after being charged with Aggravated Assault with a Deadly Weapon.
He had forced me at gunpoint into the backseat of my own vehicle. He also had a large machete that he informed me he was going to use to cut up my body after he blew my head off. I believe he would have done it if he hadn’t realized that he would get caught.
After that incident and his subsequent arrest, I didn’t see or speak to him for 11 months. Stupidly, I broke down and called him. Within hours of making the call, we reconciled, and I believed every lie and excuse he had. For about two weeks.
Once the mask was off again, my life turned into a horror movie. The reason he was so quick to reconcile was because he’d spent the past 11 months planning his revenge on me. And he stopped at nothing to ensure he got what he wanted.
Eventually I escaped again. I had learned a painful lesson and knew I had to follow the No Contact rule religiously. Which I did.
Although warrants for his arrest had been issued, he evaded police for months. The whole time he looked for me. When he found me, my life flashed before my eyes. Obviously I survived, albeit not unscathed.
My son was able to get help and the narc was finally arrested again. He spent a few months in jail and later pleaded guilty to a reduced charge in order to avoid further incarceration. I was given no say so in the matter.
Because he’s walking around freely again, I definitely have concerns that he’ll try to finish what he started. It’s almost guaranteed to happen due to the fact that narcissists can’t stand to lose. Normal people would learn from the past. Narcissists don’t.
In his mind, he is intelligent enough to get away with murder. He just needed to tweak his plan in order to succeed. I’m not going to give him the opportunity and will be moving far away in a few weeks.
My advice to you is look at your narc’s past behavior to find the answer to whether or not he’ll return after being released. Then stop at nothing to ensure your safety.
Originally Answered by Serena Prince on Quora.